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Writer's picturePatricia Lemer

Serious Talk About Humor

On my answering machine was a message from the mother of Lance, a fifth grader with Asperger’s Syndrome. She was distraught. Sassing the speech-language pathologist (SLP) who ran a weekly social skills group, Lance had exclaimed, “You can’t tell me what to do.” “To the office!” she spat. “You are suspended from this group for three weeks. And you are sentenced to detention, besides!î“Patty, find us another schoo!!” Lance’s mother cried. “I can’t take this anymore.”

Listening, I agreed wholeheartedly. I had just returned from the 15th annual international conference on the Positive Power of Humor and Creativity. sponsored by The Humor Project in Saratoga Springs, NY. After spending the weekend taking life seriously and myself lightly, I wished that the SLP had been with me to hear Joel Goodman’s sage words.

Seven Good Reasons to be Serious about Humor

Jest for the health of it – The health-humor connection is well documented. Norman Cousins helped alleviate pain by watching Marx Brothers movies. Laughter (”jogging for the guts”) increases the immune system’s functioning and reduces stress-related hormones. For kids with immune system dysfunction, laughter is essential.

Love And Understanding Give Hope To Emotional Recovery. Teachers and parents need a readily available “mirth aid kit,” equipped with bubbles, stickers, and zany props. A smile is the shortest distance between two people- Transcending age, rank and size, humor connects people. It helps people disagree without being disagreeable. Whereas businesses use

Total Quality Management (TQM), schools and families need TQH (Total Quality Humor). Laughter loves company, and company loves laughter- Do announcements over the loudspeaker at school get much attention? What if they were humorous? Suppose the principal offered a joke- of-the-day prize. Would more ears perk up? Ben and Jerry’s awards “joy grants” to its employees for good performance. How about joy grants for can-do teachers and students? How about a trip to the toy store for Lance’s good behavior – instead of detention for sassing?

It’s laughademic– Laughter and learning can go hand in hand. Humor in a lesson captures attention, reduces tension, and increases retention. The act of laughing adds energy that further increases learning. Humor creates inverse paranoids- An inverse paranoid is someone who thinks the world is there to do her good! Seeing the world through positive, optimistic eyes is crucial to success as a parent, teacher and student.

Laughter has no accent– Laughter bridges international barriers. It speaks a common language and brings people from different backgrounds together. In our increasingly diverse world, laughter can unite us.

Laughter lessens stress and tension– It allows people to move from “Grin and BEAR it” to Grin and SHARE it.” Imagine the tension of that moment when Lance erupted. What if the teacher had been humorous instead of authoritarian?

Here are some reasons that might have stymied her:

Five BLOCKs to Using Humor

Barriers to perception — Lance is labeled as a child with autism. Lack of a positive outlook — The adult perceives him as problematic. Old ways of doing things — Good teachers never let kids take control. Conformity — Kids must conform to specific behaviors. KIller statements — “Yes, but I” kills everything before the but.

Let’s rewind the tape and try again. What would have been the outcome had the SLP used humor to disarm Lance and find out what provoked him? Responding to Lance’s “You can’t tell me what to do,” she could have shrugged and said, “Oh, I’m so confused. I thought I ran this group. Hey, if you want to try, I would welcome your assistance.” “Thanks,” Lance might have said. “I have some fun ideas.” “Let’s hear them,” the flexible and fun-loving SLP might have said.

If the SLP had connected with Lance and agreed with him, maybe we wouldn’t need to seek a new school. Humor might have made a huge difference. Fortunately, it’s possible for Lance’s SLP – and you – to take advantage of the wisdom of Joel Goodman and his wife, Margie Ingram. You can order tapes of all sessions of the recent conference from Professional Programs (661-255-7774). Better yet, attend their Adirondacks summer camp for grown-ups, July 23rd-28th. The focus is, “Humor and Stress Management: Tickling Stress Before It Tackles You.” Contact The Humor Project at 518-587-8770 or, mark your 2001 calendar and join me, March 30-April Fool’s Day. I always look forward to my annual jump-start and would love to C U there!

[New Developments: Executive Director’s Column, Spring 2000]

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